I remember so well the first time I met my brother-in-law Shuang. He came with Yian for the customary wedding ceremony of serving tea to my parents and to all the elders in the family. He was very boyish and always had a big smile on his face. He made such a handsome bridegroom and was so in love. He was always on the go, was very active and physically very strong. I constantly recall a picture of him riding my husband's bicycle down the road back from the market, with an enormous watermelon hanging and swinging from each handle-bar. It was such a hilarious sight! He was very fun to be with and loved to play with my son, Andrew, who was about 6 years old then. In 2006, Yian and Shuang came back to Singapore with their children on one of their many visits but this time, under unhappy circumstances. My mother, who at the time was suffering from dementia, suffered a stroke and had fallen into a coma in a private hospital. While the family hesitated on making a decision regarding her care arrangements, Shuang took the lead and requested that my husband and I help him in a search for a good nursing home for my mother. With his assistance, my mother was finally placed comfortably in a home where she received good nursing care until she passed on. On a happier note, Shuang and family came to Singapore the following year for my elder son’s wedding. Shuang was very enthusiastic about helping to prepare for the wedding. He was the tallest man around the house then, and one day, he took a ladder to fix a big red cutout of the traditional Chinese character for happiness above the pelmet of the car porch so that everyone approaching the house could see it. There it remained, a poignant symbol of happiness, long after Shuang and family had left for home, since no one was tall enough to remove it! I learnt recently that Shuang was very successful in his career and that he was well respected and loved by his colleagues. In retrospect, this should have come as no surprise as the Shuang that I knew was a warm, gentle guy with a great intellect, indomitable courage and strength of will. He was a very good husband to Yian and a doting father to Julia and Kevin. We all miss him so much. "And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years." (Abraham Lincoln)